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A GUIDE FOR UNPAID CARERS

When caring
gets heavy.

If you look after someone who is ill, disabled or older, you are a carer, even if it just feels like family life.

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Caring can be hard and it can be lonely. There is official help you can ask for. This independent guide sets out what the NHS, GOV.UK and the ONS say, with links, so you can find the right door to knock on.

5.0munpaid carers, 2021

See how many care

Keep in mind

  • You count as a carer
  • An assessment is free
  • Breaks are allowed
  • Help exists, and you can ask for it

THE SHORT ANSWER

Three things
worth knowing.

You do not have to be related to, or live with, the person you care for.
Helping with shopping, bills or company all counts.

ASSESSMENT

Ask your council for a carer's assessment

The NHS says a carer's assessment is free and anyone over 18 can ask for one. It looks at how caring affects your health, work, free time and relationships.

How to ask

BREAKS

Respite is part of the plan

Respite care means someone else looks after the person for a while. Options range from a volunteer sitting for a few hours to a short care-home stay.

Types of break

HOW MANY

You are far from alone

Census 2021 counted an estimated 5.0 million people aged 5 and over giving unpaid care in England and Wales.

See the hours

General information only, not medical advice. For advice about your own health, speak to a doctor, pharmacist or other qualified health professional.

A QUICK HOURS CHECK

How many hours
do carers give?

Pick a band of weekly caring hours to see how many people in England and Wales reported it in the 2021 Census. The bar shows the hours, not the number of people.

Caring hours check

Choose a band of hours
9 hours or less1.8 million

The most common band. In England, most unpaid carers gave 9 hours or less a week.

10 to 19 hours678,000

On average, that is about one and a half to under three hours a day.

20 to 34 hours483,000

The smallest of the five bands in the Census.

35 to 49 hours552,000

Caring at this level meets the 35 hours a week that GOV.UK sets as one condition for Carer's Allowance.

50 hours or more1.5 million

The second-largest band. In Wales, more people gave 50 or more hours a week than any other amount.

Source: ONS, Unpaid care, England and Wales: Census 2021.

Usual residents aged 5 and over in England and Wales who said they provide unpaid care in a typical week.

TWO NUMBERS WORTH KNOWING

How many care,
and how much.

Both figures come from the 2021 Census
for England and Wales.

5.0 million

People giving unpaid care

That is an age-standardised 9.0% of usual residents aged 5 and over, down from 11.4% in 2011. The share was higher in Wales (10.5%) than in England (8.9%).

ONS · CENSUS 2021

1.5 million

Caring 50 or more hours a week

The overall share of people caring fell, but the proportion giving 20 to 49 hours rose from 1.5% to 1.9%, and 50 hours or more from 2.7% to 2.8%.

ONS · CENSUS 2021

Carer's Allowance on GOV.UK, as read on 19 October 2026: £86.45 a week if you care for someone at least 35 hours a week and they get certain benefits. Conditions apply, including earnings of £204 or less a week after tax, National Insurance and expenses. Check GOV.UK for current rules; this site cannot tell you whether you qualify.

FOUR STEPS THE NHS DESCRIBES

Asking for
a carer's assessment.

This is the route the NHS sets out for carers in England. It is free, and separate from any assessment for the person you care for.

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Step 1

Contact your council

Ask adult social services at your local council for a carer's assessment, by phone or online. For a disabled child, contact the children with disabilities department.

Step 2

Get your details ready

Have your NHS number, your GP's details and, if you have them, the name, date of birth and NHS number of the person you care for.

Step 3

Talk about the impact

Someone from the council will ask how you are coping. Assessments are usually face to face and last at least an hour. You can bring a friend, relative or advocate.

Step 4

Get the results

If you qualify, the council writes a care and support plan with you. If not, it should give free advice on help in your community. You can complain if you disagree.

TAKING A BREAK

Rest is
part of caring.

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The NHS describes respite care as a way to take time out and stop yourself becoming exhausted and run down. The main types are day care centres, homecare from a paid carer, a short stay in a care home, help from friends and family, respite holidays and sitting services.

Councils only fund respite for people they have assessed as needing it, so the NHS suggests both you and the person you look after have an assessment. If things feel too much, Samaritans can be called free, any time, on 116 123. Carers UK's free helpline, listed by the NHS, is 0808 808 7777.

Questions

Questions on the way

Am I a carer?

The NHS says you are a carer if you regularly look after someone because they are ill, older or disabled, including family members. Help with washing, shopping, bills, appointments or simply keeping them company all counts.

Who can have a carer's assessment?

According to the NHS, it is free and anyone over 18 can ask for one, through adult social services at their local council in England.

What might an assessment recommend?

The NHS gives examples such as someone to take over caring so you can have a break, help with taxi fares or housework, training in safe lifting, local support groups and advice about benefits.

What is Carer's Allowance?

A benefit set out on GOV.UK for people caring at least 35 hours a week for someone who gets certain benefits. Eligibility rules apply, and it can affect other benefits, so check GOV.UK. In Scotland, Carer Support Payment applies instead.

Is this site run by a church or charity?

No. It is an independent information guide. It does not give medical, legal or financial advice, and it is not linked to any church, charity or council.

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